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Sabrina Gilbert www.BurrowsInk.com
Hoes Know Hoes
-By Mista
There's a huge double standard that is still seriously effecting society & relationships!
It seems men…are socially able to fuck a goat & it would be accepted…
But if a woman…has had more than 2 previous partners…
She's a hoe!
Personally I do believe that there is a difference…
& it's only because of the "worn out" theory.
But that theory isn't based on fact.
It's based on assumption!
(She has to do an awful lot of fucking for that to happen!)
{She can gave birth can't she?}
In this day & age…you'd think that the emphasis would be more so on love…
Then how many past partners a woman has had.
I do admit to this thinking…though.
There is something in the way a guy's raised to think…
That creates this wall of double standard.
We tend to think our woman shouldn't be experienced,
Shouldn't know hardly any men
&
Should be restraint & permissive sexually!
But is that what we want?
Yet we can run through 80 women...
On Youtube & T.V. & it's all good!
In fact we promote it as men & IN SOCIETY!!!
Why do men mostly cheat with quote/unquote "Hoes"?
So then…while beginning a relationship…
The question is brought up!
Men openly brag about past partners (Real & fake)!
In a lot of cases…the women have to lie…to pacify thier man,
Because the truth may create unnecessary waves in the relationship!!!
So the honesty factor is already violated…but for a good reason.
My new girl has to slowly feed me that info…
Because in the back of my mind…
my insecurity had me thinking…
& asking myself shyt like
"Was he (She/they) better or bigger than me?"
"What would happen if they saw that ex again!"
{Did it matter?}
I guess once I truly knew that I was her nicca
& sexually her affectionate & marathon first…
It subsided.
I thought to myself…if she didn't have experience…
Would she have been able to rock a brotha…
Or
have me standing on my toes...like she did?
Now it's time for me to fully express my thoughts & how I see it…
If you're a girl gone wild...
If you're "quote/unquote" a freak!
If you've str-8 up & proudly fucked a football team…
it better show in bed!!! Lol!
(because today... I'd probably choose you!)
Na-mean?
Don't give me that…
"Oh…I've never done this before?" shyt!
I want a woman who can satisfy me…in more ways than one!
Today...Women are doin there thing…
& on the low…
they've been doing it
for years too!
40 years ago this conversation isn't ever brought up...
because then...'real' communication was a myth!
Do you realize how hard it was at first for me…
When I found out that all of my uncles…
weren't my 'real' uncles?
That was a good way to shade it up…
but when we're young…we know.
Because deep down we knew something just wasn't right.
"I never knew…I had a Spanish uncle!"
Or
"& why does my uncle stay in her room at night?"
As an adult…I realize my father wasn't there & Mom needed luv too!!!
It didn't make her a bad mother…just a real flesh & blood woman!!!
With needs & wants just like any of us!
So I said all of that to say…do you!
But put some shade on it…
Because the things you can do…can mess with your man's head!
& if he's like me…
then it's the lower one that's gonna be just as happy
&
He get's the best of both worlds!!!
If he's not like me…then you could lose someone you love…
Because of your past!
Men say they want a woman that is a good gurl!
But just like women…we want em bad too!!!
Besides…Your Mom & Pop don't have to know she was a stripper!
& if she don't want to tell you…
You may not find out either!!!!
We all have secrets…
What's yours?
One…
Self Motivation
Currently, I am at a state of reflecting and action. Many times people want to do what they desire, without the thought of consequence and or care. Not doing what you want is also a popular one; people wanting things in their life but not actively making these things happen. The only result of this behave is unfulfillment. Once you find yourself in a position that you do not wnat to be, you have to motivate yourself to be proactive and do something to change your situation around. This may be hard, yet with persistence it is nothing short of tangible. I'm sure there will be plenty of people telling you to do positive things in your life; or maybe not... maybe you are someone that has come to this realization on your own, but whatever prompted you to this point it is imperative to your success to do something about it.
Self motivation is the key, no one can force you to do anything; you must first be willing and open to the change at hand.
-CHIMEZ
THE HOTTEST TREND!
Can you keep up? I am not sure that you can. With the world online, I do not think that you are totally prepared for the hottest new trend. Actually, you are already following this irresistible, convenient, self-absorbing item. I am sure you keep your Facebook, MySpace, Twitter, Downelink, Live Journal, Blogger, and Wordpress sites updated. I know for sure that your cell phone has the ability to access the internet, save and upload pictures through one of the many apps that are available. Equipped with camera, and video camera, your digital devices will keep the world in tune with you. Now that you are digitally updated let me tell you about the hottest trend.
Wait! Before I give you one of the best kept secrets let me ask you if you have seen the movies, Minority Report, irobot, or do watch Caprica, or V? Some of you have answered no and some have answered yes. Nonetheless, you still should know about this trend. What trend am I referring? It is the trend of Mind Control, setting you up for indoctrination into one of the biggest organizations ever. How? You may ask. Just take a moment to think.
Do you remember when skull and bones symbols were on everything from pocketbooks, to underwear? Even your favorite celebrity was wearing the emblem. Did you ever think to ask yourself why skull and bones. Did you know that skull and bones is an actual secret society? Some of the worlds’ Power Elite are members of this group. Read the book entitled “Unholy Alliance”, by Dr. James Wardner to gain insight on the subject matter. Have you noticed that many things have the prefix I? There is the iphone, ipod, and ipad. Have you noticed that there is a name for many of generations past; however, we are at the end of an era. Notice there is Generation X, who birthed Generation Y, Generation Z and finally, the children born in 2010 and beyond will be called Generation Alpha. Did you notice the alphabetical countdown? Why call babies born into the second decade of the new millennium Alpha? Alpha means the first. Why is this generation considered the first generation? This is the first generation to know nothing but digital interaction. What they are not telling you is that this generation will be a different breed of child, and eventually adult. They will attend school online, or their lessons will be taught from a smart board. These young people will be less inclined to display manners, and understand how to interact with humanity. They will be impatient and constantly looking for instant gratification, and will increasingly traceable. Updating their status on the minute, hosting parties online via web cam, and possible attending their graduation ceremonies online would not be farfetched. This type of indoctrination leads to self absorbed and unable to adapt to manual labor.
So, you are thinking what is the big deal. The hottest trend is the mass programming of your Mind! Everyone is engulfed in knowing where you are, what you are doing. In case you have not noticed, everyone is so public with their life that the boundaries of societal norms have been changed and the bizarre has become normal. The hottest trend can be deadly if you do not pay attention. Being so social may land the loss of your job, or a being declined a scholarship.
- O.N.E.I
posted 3/30/10
MIND over MATTER
(If you don't mind; it don't matter)
It is now time for people to take account for the things that they do, and also to keep in mind that ones actions impact not only thier lives, but also the lives around them.
Growth is a major part of life, and many of times people stay stagnant... just hoping for change. Well change wont just come busting down your doors; you have to embrace it and often chase it. Yet if this is what you want, if a positive change is what you desire... why not run after it?
See, by people acting as if they don't care it will truly be as though the situation doesn't matter. If something is truly important to you, take charge, take control and put things into perspective. Life is all about learning and at first you may not get it right but you try and try again... correct? Yes, correct, you keep going until you get it right, if that's what you genuinely want.
Could you imagine what were to happen if as babies we decided we didn't want to walk because it wasn't that important to us at that very point and time? We probably would not even be able to enjoy the simple wonders of walking today. See; we take for granted so many things... and when the water is close to running dry then we decide to try... we try to get it right.
How about this... Let's all try to be proactive in 2010 and for the rest of our lives.
Life is too short to continuously make the same mistakes.
Let's just ACT on it for Heaven's sake.
I love you all, and I hope this is healing for someone.
Be blessed.
If you have any toics you would like to share or would like to see addressed, please contact CHIMEZ@PostUpLive.com thank you :)
-CHIMEZ :)
3/30/10
Shout out to the beautiful couple :)
Christina and Cristina! (I Love it)
Chimez and Role Model Amein, came across the gorgeous couple in the city of New York; and I just had to take a PICTURE. Love is something to be cherished and treasured, and once you find it you should hold on to it with dear life. There are so may elements in this world designed and geared towards breaking us down, don't let love be one of them. Learn to use love as a strenght, allow it to help you grow instead of a weakness that's keeps you drained. There are many people who are scared to love; embrace it fully regardless of it packaging.... Love truly is the greatest gift of all. Definitely something worth believing in. :)
-CHIMEZ 3/18/10
Positivty is best!!
Every morning you wake up Scream its a beautiful day!! Lol.. .Goofy I know, but do it. Positivity will get you where you want to go and faster.
Take your time and enjoy your morning. Go for a run or a walk, read a piece or excerpt from your favorite book, eat a good and healthy breakfast and the commence on your day.
Remember the sky is the limit.
Carpe diem... Seize the day!!
-Ebony Marie 3/18/10It is TIME
I don't know ABOUT YOU GUYS, but personally; THE fACT is, it is time for a change... A change for the better, a change that will help us weather the storms that are sure to come; as well as the few that are currently upon us. How long will one ignore the calling, and the pulling of their heart? How long must you deny where you come from, and not ask what you can do to make it better, and how to make a future bright. The truth is there are many people who say they care; but you have to care enough for yourself, about yourself and others to make a difference. There is help out there in this world, you just have to reach out for it, or simply just stop fighting the force and let it fall upon you. Life is so precious, and time is so short, there is so much that needs to be done. You must ask yourself how am I ACTively making a difference. Life is not solely about living, life is also big on touching the life of someone else. So Post UP and do something positive! THE TIME IS NOW! No thinking; ACT!
-CHIMEZ 3/15/10 
Why don't YOU LOVE me??
"I wonder why you treat me this way..." "I give and give and all you do is take..." "What will it take for you to see that I LOVE you..."
Have you ever found yourself asking yourself these questions??? All of the why's and what can I do to make it better???
Well it's clear to see that you actually love your significant other... BUT are you too blind to see that your significant other DOESN'T love YOU????
If the answer is yes, well then you need to remove yourself from that unstable but comfortable situation... BUT if your answer is no, then baby, I need you to re-evaluate YOU...
Never give someone your all if they will not bend or attempt to willingly give you theirs as well.
The more you tolerate this treatment; the one you LOVE (that doesn't love you) will NEVER treat you the way you truly deserve.
Give yourself your all first, and be your own BEST companion primarily. Then and only then will you realize what LOVE is suppose to feel like. You will know what love is supposed to be and what its like to truly give and also receive; all within reason.
So the next time you find yourself asking what YOU can do to make it better... To make them love you... Start within YOU! Trust every answer you need, will be in the very place you seek... YOU :)
Just allow your eyes to open and see that sometimes the best thing YOU can do to make is better is to just LEAVE...
-Ebony MarieMarch 7th, 2010
DESPERATION never LOOKS good |
| We know a closed mouth doesn't get feed, but having ya jaw wide open has never really appealed to much folks. In the words of twitter #imjustSayin So here's a little knowledge so you wont look too thirsty, but still will get to drink :) More POWER to ya! |
Hey ladies, and gents do you ever wonder why sometimes when you try to get someone's attention they ignore you more??
Or why when you try to show someone you care and it pushes them away???
Well wonder no more!
Have you ever heard of trying too hard or the word DESPERATE???
Yeah I said it, DESPERATE!!!
DESPERATION NEVER LOOKS GOOD...
Look there's a difference between trying and just trying too damn hard. Desperation is not sexy or attractive (at all.... point blank). That is the one sure way to turn your love interest COMPLETELY off. Instead you should try taking a more subtle approach. there is nothing wrong with taking things slow or actually being yourself. Honestly, if they are genuine they will respect you more for it ;and you will be able to get a better response from whomever's attention that it is you seek. Now I'm not saying don't go after what you want; BUT there are other ways to go and get it than being too available or doing too much.
Remember desperation is for a fool who believes in nothing; or someone who doesn't understand their worth...
Take it easy and move slow and just let life happen and if its meant to be.. Then it will be...
By:Ebony Marie
10 Ways To Survive A Snow Storm |
 Lately the snow has been coming down... If you are in one of the city or states that's repeatedly getting snowed in heres a few tips from our new writer Ebony Marie. If you have your own daily life story or tips |
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10 Ways To Survive A Snow Storm
Have you ever been snowed in or self diagnosed with cabin fever??? Well here are 10 ways to make it through the storm at the same time as enjoying the surroundings of your home, while also being safe!!
1. Make sure to stay up on the latest updates involving the weather... You want to know what's coming so you won't get caught off guard and you also want to keep up with the sudden changes.
2. Always be prepared for what's to come.. Make sure you hit the stores for whatever you need. Grab the essentials and necessities ( I.e. : food, water, clothes, etc..)
3. Check to make sure everything in your house is working and up to date... You want to make sure everything in your house is working properly.. Have batteries on hand for flashlights or smoke detectors and make sure; if you have an on hand fire extinguisher; its up to date and working.
4. Always have needed medications and first aid on hand.. Its nothing worse to need medicine and can't get to it.. See if you can get some for at least a week or so. Accidents do happen you know.
5.Always be prepared to entertain yourself and/or others.. Games, movies, and good books can provide a little relaxation from the current state of being stuck. Try not to get to bored, don't want to catch a case of cabin fever!!
6. Always have some form of money.. Whether its cash and/or card, always have it at arms reach. You never know what may come in handy.
7. Make sure your vehicle is fully serviced and functional.. It sucks to finally get dug out and still can't go because your engine is frozen from the lack of... Sad but true
8. Make sure you have more than one means of communication. Land lines and/or cell phones always come in handy.. And just in case that good old technology let you down; always have a written copy of you phone book of numbers to reach your neighbors family and friends.
9. Have a working generator... You never know what a snow storm or any storm may do. With a strong wind your power can be out as fast as the flick of a switch. So be prepared and have back up.
10. Make sure you can enjoy your surroundings... Including your MATE!! Its nothing worse than being stuck with someone you don't like!! Make ways to remember why you feel in love with him/her in the first place...
Do these simple things and you can survive ANY storm.. And remember, an experience can be a bad or a good one... But its all up to you to make it what you want it to be.
By: Ebony Marie
